Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Trying something new

I remember many things about elementary and middle school, most not very good. I remember being in Kindergarten and knowing that it wasn't as fun for me as it was for everyone else. I don't remember when it started or why it started I just remember that I didn't like it. I felt uncomfortable and shameful, an outcast amongst five year olds. I remember cutting my hair and blaming it on a boy, only telling the truth when told he would get into trouble. I remember being tied to tennis courts and left for the janitors to untie me, feeling embarrassed but also hopeless. I was one drug around the playground by my feet, unfortunately I was wearing a skirt and the injuries I sustained were embarrassing and required a trip to the principal's office. It was the only time the bullying was actually dealt with, though I don't remember their punishment. I had crushes on boys and knew I repulsed them, so I tried to change to be more attractive. I adopted their likes, interests and sometimes even fashion. I sunk deep into the books I would read, becoming the characters in the stories. I would retreat into their world, sometimes too deeply, making me even more of an outcast to those who didn't need fantasy worlds. I had a teacher who knew how terrible it was, I knew she cared and wanted to help but it was before "zero tolerance" days. She would write thoughtful notes in my journal and make sure I had special outings and tasks to feel special. I loved her, but I needed more. I needed someone to stand up for me and say it was wrong, but in a town as small as mine that's not possible. When my parents told me we were leaving that small town, just as I was approaching adolescence I could've wept with joy. I was so excited about the new possibilities and adventure waiting; I knew that life could be better. I wanted for my classmates to be sad I was leaving; I wanted them to show a little friendship. Instead, on my last day, my head was smashed into a brick wall as a going away present. I got up and looked around for an adult to help me, but no one was around. I walked to Nan's house that day and vowed I would never return. I haven't, except for trips to the farm and the occasional funeral. My brothers have a strange bond to the town, even though one of them was just as bullied as I. They want to live there and visit often, they don't understand my hatred.

I wish I was a good writer, I feel a strong desire to share my story though I don't think that it's novel worthy. I think I have a story that's worth sharing, even if just for someone to find hope. I'll keep it here, private, for now..I probably won't ever share it.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

It’s almost like they saw it

Then I'm inundated with phone calls emails and messages lmao...so funny. I'm probably going to ditch the entry I posted the other day because I'm so paranoid it'll be seen by the wrong people (although I never tell anyone I have a blog)

Today is my 30th birthday. 30. Yeesh, are we sure I'm not still 15? Are we sure that my wild and crazy teen years were HALF a lifetime away?!

It was a tame birthday, a normal day of taking kids to swim lessons and running errands. Mom ordered pizza and got me an ice cream cake so that was a nice ending.

I may be getting a Blackberry Storm, if the Kijiji deal works out. I hope so!

We head to the cabin on Monday and I haven't even BEGUN packing..but the list is in progress and will happen!

I had deemed this week to be camping week, but it hasn't worked out that way yet. First of all it's so hot I don't want to turn my oven on, second off having the boys swim lessons in the middle of the day really messed things up for me..it's hard to do anything when I'm gone from 1-2:30 each day..especially since I'm not "up and attem" until at least 10.

Friday, May 22, 2009

I kind of want to wait it out

I decided, last week, that I am depressed again. I'm feeling a little paranoid and down and called my therapist immediately. My appointment is in 10minutes. I'm sorry I'm just so tired today, it's Friday I don't feel like leaving the house if I don't have to!

Obviously it's just environmental factors—Nan's death, overworked, wanting out of this house, the motorbike..all factors that make me over stressed. So I upped my Vitamin D intake.

Nan's funeral went well, it wasn't as incredibly sad as I thought it would be..except for a few moments. I hated being there, in that town, I hated everyone there and felt they didn't deserve to talk about my Nan or see my slideshow. I can't help it.

Having trouble with R&C lately, just a lot of bad behaviour. I'm not really sure what's going on but I'm getting to the end of my rope. They are grounded from everything so that should help ha!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

73 Days and counting!

There are 73 days of school left..which means I have about 66 days of Walmart left..maybe less.

I'm trying SO hard not to be negative about the Walmart gig..and I've revisited our books SO many times to try find a way to quit. But the truth is, we're getting SO much done with me working there. Debt is being paid down fast(and really, we don't have a lot to start with) and savings are being paid UP fast. I'm definitely going to be able to take the summer off and not be panicked. It's just such a negative place to work, everyone is so unhappy and stuck on a power trip. It's hard to work where everyone is so down.

My lovely career is going smashingly. I am having so much fun with my SEVEN..yes SEVEN kids. If you ever thought education has as much money as it needs..step into my world. There is NO reason I should be working with 7 kids..especially 3 of them, they should have their own EA's. I love every minute of it, I really really do. I love the challenge of trying to figure out how to teach 7 kids who have such a broad range of special needs and intelligences and age ranges!

I'm a little stressed about if I'll get full time next year. I'll be happy with 3.5-4 full days a week, 5 full days would be full time. I won't know that until the last week of school..which is the last week in June.

I go for a CT Scan on Thursday to see why I'm so sick when I eat. I had a terrible dream that they found I was riddled with stomach cancer and had like a month to live. I have to keep reminding myself I'm not vomiting blood so I must be fine (how's that for logic?).

Today R & C needed fillings. R got two and did well, it's amazing to see how far he's come from being the boy with Sensory disorders that ruled his world, he is a blessed boy. C did not do so well, she hadn't even drilled into the decay yet and he was screaming beyond control, so she did a temporary fill and got a referral to a sedation dentist(the same one R used to go to) which is a very expensive visit for us. I'm disappointed, but I'm his mama..I don't want him to hurt!

G is counting down the days to his 10th birthday; meanwhile I'm trying to stop time. 10yrs old, moving on to middle school—where is my preemie baby that hummed when he slept???!!

I should go to bed, but I took 400 photos this weekend at Easter and need to whittle them down and edit them. That or clean the kitchen..whichever turns out to be my priority.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

When will she come back?

Every time I get the wave of "Nan is gone" I push it down and pretend I just haven't visited for awhile. Denial seems to work best to keep my heart from being permanently broken.

It's an incredibly hard thing to wrap my mind around—I will never see her again. This woman, who has been a huge force in my life, is forever gone. I will live another 60yrs if I'm lucky..and they will never include her again.

I can't imagine when it's my parents, my husband..oh man..stop this ride I want to get off!


 

OK..let's move on to something a bit more positive.

I was proactive at my job at Walmart and was moved from Cashier to Customer Service Specialist—a fancy term for the person who rehangs the clothing you've tried on. The hours are better, the job is better, the manager is better. I love it. Some cashiers are jealous and angry at me..but too f'in bad.

I was also given another full day at the school..which oddly makes up for the money I will now be losing since I lost 10hrs/week at Walmart (by choice, it was too much). I am sinking a ton of money into debt repayment and savings for summer since I don't get paid over summer holidays. I also hope that I'll have full time placement next year so I can quit Walmart in June and enjoy the summer.

It's teachers convention today and tomorrow, I don't work at Walmart until Saturday. I am cleaning and enjoying the time off!

Friday, February 13, 2009

It just bugs me when…

I have had recent dealings with people inappropriately using cell phones and Facebook, it irks me to no end when this happens.

  1. Do NOT use a cell phone to text or update your FB status that you are in the hospital, for any reason.

Do not make your status "is on hour 4 in the ER" or "is thinking the hospital sux" etc. Do not text "hadababyitsaboy"(remember that ad?) or "your mom died today".

Personally—I was supposedly sent at text letting me know that my nephew was born, I didn't get that text. Instead I got a weird one that made no sense so I CALLED my brother and asked what was up, only to find out my nephew had been born hours before.

I also supposedly was sent a text to let me know my Nan was in the hospital. I did not get it and did not find out what was going on for 12hours. The text messaging continued and there were many miscommunications. Thankfully I had begun calling and refused to text about anything concerning her.


  1. Do NOT use Facebook to announce your separation or divorce.

By this I mean, make sure you've talked to your family first and that your (ex)spouse has done the same. A friend of mine changed her marital status to single and her status to "is loving being single" and what not, much to her inlaws dismay..who had not been told yet because they had only decided to separate the night before!


  1. If the text is so long the receiver will get it in 2 or more parts, pick up the phone!

Seriously, if you are typing for five minutes and it'll take 8 messages for the receiver to get the full story, just call.


  1. If the message requires a discussion, do not text or FB it.

I got this tip from someone teaching organization, if it' simply a memo or "hey want to go grab a coffee" type message, then you're fine. If it's "I think your behaviour is deplorable and I can't stand you" then you need a face to face or at least phone conversation.

  1. Do not use FB to fuel your false sense of self esteem and security.

Using FB to constantly remind people how "happy" you are and how wonderful your life is makes us think you're really fucked up and maybe need some help. On the other hand, talking about how nobody cares about you and how you have no friends, in an effort to get people to comment about how much they love you..is just as annoying. I am known to write "has great friends & family" when I'm getting the support I need during a tough time, but it's not my everyday thing. Normally I just let you know exactly what I'm doing at all times of the day.


  1. One last one—you do not NEED to post every photo you take nor comment on them.

If the photo is blurry or just really a bad shot..you don't need to post it! Also, if it' simply a series of baby eating you do not need to put "mm peas" "more mommy" "this is good" "I love food"

Ugh it's monotonous and really not that clever—but I may be the only one who is annoyed by that.


Friday, February 6, 2009

I thought the world would stop

Nan died on Wednesday. She was pain free and had her kids with her.

I'm so selfish, I want her back. Of course I want her back as she was 20 years ago..not after the heart attacks and strokes.

My heart hurts more than I ever thought possible, I'm a mess.

My best friend hasn't even called me and I'm trying SO hard to believe that it's because of what she went through with her Moms passing last year, perhaps it' too hard. But it hurts. I thought she would be by my side, helping to hold me up.

I'm not crying as much as I have been, but I'm kind of a shell right now.

I need to shake out of it for the boys.

I am making a slide show for the funeral..which is Sunday.

That's all I can say right now.

 

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